Updated: Nov 4, 2019
Every time someone asks me for an advice, my immediate internal thoughts are:
I don't have an advice for you.
I don't want to give you an advice.
I don't think I'm able to give you an advice.
How selfish, you may say!
And yet I feel the pressure of having to help.
The rules of our society instruct us to give help to others when we are asked for it.
Unless we respond to the call and rescue others, then we are considered mean and selfish.
I also feel the pressure of having to know.
We are often expected to know everything. And when we don’t know something, we may try to pretend that we know. Our inability to always immediately know everything we encounter makes us jump to the knowing faster than normal to cover up for our insecurities. Consequently, most of the advice we share are based on assumptions of what we think we know, or based on personal experience of what had worked in an individual's conditions and environment.
Both the pressure of having to help and having to know result in overwhelming and overflowing amount of advice packaged in the name of goodwill.
In spite of its well-intentioned appearance, it's important to understand that most advice can have irrelevant and unuseful content.
Most advice is intended to push us towards following a direction. Making a decision. Taking an action. Achieving a goal...
It often starts with...
You should... You must... You have to... Do... Don't... Never...
Be wary of advice.
You can thank the person for their good intention.
You can be inspired by the content of the advice.
But to completely trust the advice means giving away your power...
It means accepting intervention and control from others in your life.
When you allow control to come into your life, the gifts of universe might be delayed.
You may be looking for guidance in other people's advice, but you can look for the same in yourself, in stillness, and in nature.
You don't need most of the advice given to you.
You already know what to do.
I know you know.
Yours in Magic,